It’s 7am and I’m flipping pancakes. What’s this? I’m out of syrup? Oh, no! I’ll just walk over to my neighbor’s place and see if I can borrow some.

*Knock* *Knock*

“Hey there, Cali! You wouldn’t happen to have any syrup I could borrow?”

“Why yes I do, Kristin. Is it me or is it getting kind of hot in here?”

“You know what? It is SO hot in here!”

“You can take your sweater off if you’d like.”

Brown chicken, brown cow! There you have it ladies and gentlemen; my attempt at writing the beginning of a porn video and it’s atrocious.

Today I am going deep undercover (that’s what she said) to get some perspective on the porn industry. My neighbor is a professional porn star. I will only be referring to her by her stage name, Cali Hayes, because she would like to keep her business life and personal life separate. I think the most difficult part of this interview will be to try to not turn everything into a sexual innuendo.

Cali is twenty-four years young. Born and raised in Missouri, she has long blonde-brown hair, which she changes up pretty regularly. She’s laid back and speaks softly—a genuine sweetheart.

When I first met Cali, I had no idea she was in the porn industry. She dresses similar to myself, and will glam it up on nights out, but it’s not at all how I pictured a porn star would dress. If you really think about it, nobody wants to wear what they wear to work when they are trying to go about their daily routine.

The first night I went out with Ms. Hayes, we drank a lot of whiskey. The night ended with me NOT remembering that I agreed to teach her how to ride a longboard while intoxicated. Before all that, however, we met up with some guy she was seeing at some bar where his band was playing—the ultimate LA basic bitch thing to do. What do girls do while the band is playing?

D-R-I-N-K! Occasionally, we dance like nobody’s watching, but mostly we drink. Basic. Mid-D-R-I-N-K was the moment she told me she is a porn star. She told me her porn name and everything.

The following day consisted of a few things: hydrating, nursing my hangover, and reflecting upon the night before.

Wait!

My neighbor told me she was a porn star, but Drunk Kristin totally forgot her porn name! Damn it, Drunk Kristin!

So, do I… do I ask? It’s pretty awkward to ask. No, it’s totally awkward to ask! I’ll be honest, folks; I wasn’t going to watch my friend in action, but I totally wanted to do a Google search to see if what she told me was legit! I had just met the girl at the time so I was not entirely comfortable asking her straight out. Instead, I spent two long weeks playing it cool and hoping she would bring it up again so I could get her porn name. When she finally brought it up, she said, “You’re not going to look me up, are you?”

Nooooooooo… maybe.

Let’s bring it back to today and get ta inta-viewin-ah here.

I asked Cali for some pictures and I put them below!


 

First question, how did you get involved with the porn industry?

I was bartending and looking for work making more money, so I went to the city of St. Louis. I went to a strip club to look for a job as a bartender, but was told they were not hiring bartenders at that time. They did give me a flyer for amateur night happening later that week, which piqued my interest. I was broke and needed money, and the prize for winning the contest was $500 and a potential job. I had never even been in a strip club, and when I asked to look around, they wouldn’t let me until I actually showed up for amateur night. Long story short…I got first place out of 14 contestants…and the $500!

I danced for two years, but wanted to move to LA, so I began looking for dance venues online, but couldn’t find anything promising. While searching online, I came across an “adult job” website which had a variety of companies which featured modeling, dancing, and adult actor/actress jobs. That’s where I found my first agent, who flew me to California and I was able to meet a lot of production companies. I was with his agency for a year or so, then I left and began booking jobs on my own with companies I had previously worked with. I needed more work, so I partnered with a new agent, who has been fantastic. I continue to work through his company.

What did your friends and family think when you told them? Did you tell them?

I told my family, who has continued to support me, although my sister initially had a difficult time with the idea itself. My close friends know and have remained a great support. I’m from a small community, so word got around and people began emailing and texting each other… so everyone eventually found out. Word spread a lot faster than I expected.

How did you go about telling them?

It was a process. When I first went to California, I told them I was just lingerie modeling. But when I came back home a week later, I told my parents in person, and they took it surprisingly well. It was never what they thought I would do for a career, but they trusted my decision and judgement.

The person who had the most difficult time with it was my younger sister. She felt the industry was degrading to women and that I was being exploited. After some time talking with her and explaining the professionalism of the production companies I was working with, she became more accepting. Things are good with us now.

Do you feel your job affects your dating life in any way?

Yes, because I never tell people what I do—because they may judge me or think I’m “easy.” People tend to make assumptions about women who work in the industry and think that’s how they are in their personal life, which couldn’t be farther from the truth for me. The majority of us are very normal and are only playing a character on film.

Would you date a fellow porn star?

Yes. Since they are also working in the industry, they would be more understanding of my career. Plus it is probably safer, since “safe sex” is a must in the industry and we get tested weekly…and you can’t say that about the general public.

What do you think people misunderstand most about the porn industry?

What people see, in many aspects, is not reality. For example, the scene may be set in a massage parlor, but is really being filmed in a mansion in California with an entire camera crew, makeup artists and professional lighting.

Another misunderstanding is the amount of travel you do within the porn industry. Since beginning my career, I have traveled a lot with all expenses paid. I’ve flown first class, stayed in five star resorts and hotels, and have dined at amazing restaurants. I probably would have never had many of the opportunities, like this, if I hadn’t been in the industry.

There was a HIV scare this summer and the industry was shut down for a few weeks. How much of an effect did this have on you financially?

It had a huge effect on me financially! In this industry, you have to be prepared for a potential moratorium, and plan accordingly. The scary thing is you do not know how long it will last, so it could be month or more with no income; it depends on the amount of people directly affected and the re-testing process. Although it is good they test actors and actresses so frequently, so they can detect [any diseases] before they are exposed. One aspect the public tends to forget is that each of the actors and actresses have personal, private lives, and that is how most of the exposure occurs.

Porn stars are among the first people to use new apps and services like the EAZE marijuana delivery app that blew up in LA. Why is that, do you think?

Possibly because we do have a lot of free time between work, and usually have the income to try out new apps and products. But I will say getting weed delivered directly to your front door is convenient and, frankly, pretty damn awesome!  After all, my stage name, Cali Hayes, came from the strain of marijuana called “Cali Haze.”

Explain the networking process you use to promote yourself and to get more work. 

That’s the reason I have a great agent. We do attend conventions and expos, industry parties, and connect with our fans on Twitter.

What’s the deal with porn stars and Twitter?

I love the fact that Twitter allows me to immediately communicate with my fans and find out what they are looking for. We can post pics and stay in touch with others in the industry as well. My Twitter handle is @CaliHayesXXX.

Makeup tips or advice?

Good eyebrows frame the face, so the shape is important.  I work on them a little every few days, to keep clean lines and nice arches.

I wear sunscreen every day!  It’s a must and I put it on before my makeup.

Coconut oil is also a must-have!  You can use it for so many things, but my favorite is as a moisturizer.​

What are the top 3 things you need if you want to become a porn star?

1) Make sure you are going into it for the right reasons

2) A good agent you can trust who will get you professional work

3) Intact self esteem

Where do you see yourself in twenty years?

Out of the city, somewhere on the west coast, with a nice, comfortable home and possibly with my own family. I’d like to own my own business, in or out of the adult industry. I’m not sure yet; twenty years is a long way out. So much can happen.

Do you still want to be my friend after this? Haha!

Of course!!! I couldn’t have picked a better neighbor!  What would I do without you?!


 

There you have it, ladies and gentlemen! I think the most important thing to take away from this interview is that Cali still wants to be my friend.

Joking aside, I hope that this gives you a fresh perspective on the porn industry. It is easy to judge people without giving them a chance. I’ve been guilty of doing that in the past and I try my best not to do that anymore.

I know a few people I am “friends with” on social media who will not like anything Cali has to say. They are women who will post bible quotes for days, but will also post pictures of themselves over the weekend with their boobs and butt cleavage out for all to see. Here I am going about my business of scrolling through my newsfeed when all of the sudden this creature shows up, and she’s sliding down my newsfeed like she’s on a greased up stripper pole with a couple of WWJD bumper stickers on it. However, she will still hate on anyone involved in the porn industry because it is, according to her, immoral.

Riiiiiight.

My thoughts are if you continue to be judgmental of everything around you, then you’ll continue to let life pass by you without truly experiencing any of it. Sometimes that attitude is the result of ingrained beliefs or playing it safe or simply feeling stuck where you’re at.

Hopefully, in this New Year, we can begin to look at things more objectively and have more of an understanding of the people around us. Live a little or die with regrets.

That’s all I have to say about that (Forrest Gump anyone?).

Stay tuned for my next Spotlight Sunday in February! I am stoked about my next interview- she’s a really good friend who might have one of the coolest jobs in the world. Well, I guess cool isn’t the best word to describe her work… it’s actually fairly hot. Hmm… okay, I’m going to stop talking now.

Take care!

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